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Q. I would love to be married, and have children, but it seems a terrible risk. How can I be sure it will work out for the best ?

by Robert Brow - February 1999

 You can never be sure. Lovers risk getting badly hurt. Parents risk having children who will give them pain. Leaders have to trust members of their team, knowing that some will fail them  (Jesus had Judas).

Morton Kelsey quoted an anonymous risk taker who wrote :

To laugh is to risk appearing a fool
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental
To reach out to another is to risk involvement
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self
To love is to risk not being loved in return
To live is to risk dying
To try is to risk failure
Those who take no risks do nothing

Morton Kelsey added : "Only a person who risks has courage and is free to continue unending growth" (Reaching: The Journey to Fulfilment, Harper & Row, 1983 p.139). But there are good and bad risk takers : Marsha Sinetar wrote "There are three kinds of person : Those who take no risks. Those who take poorly calculated risks. Those who take well-planned risks" (Do What You Love, Dell 1987, p. 119).

The art is to ask God to clarify our mind, and the Bible has a strange way of doing just that. But that is also risky. H.A.Williams wrote : "To become fully yourself is a terrible risk. It would commit you to God knows what and lead you God knows where" (Becoming what I am, London, 1977, p.19)

Those quotations may sound scary, but let me add my own : "One of the freedoms we have as Christians is that in our taking of risk, and even when we take risks that end badly, God the Father still loves us. The Son of God understands because he took the risk of being crucified. And the Holy Spirit is always there to give us the wisdom to pick up the broken pieces of the risks we took. So with God it is safe to risk and fail."

I hope that helps, and if it makes sense, go for it.

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